Everything I share here comes straight from my lived experience—both personal and professional. These are my reflections, perceptions, and insights shaped by years of doing the work, feeling the feels, and navigating the messy, beautiful complexity of healing and growth. It’s not gospel, it’s not universal truth—it’s just the shit I’ve found useful, meaningful, and worth passing on. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t.
Therapy Thoughts…
October, 2025
Don’t “should” on yourself.
If I had a nickel for every time I reminded someone of this.
“I shouldn’t think this way”. “I know I should be more grateful…”. And on and on. The sneaky little imp-how you should feel, how you should heal, how you should parent, work, love, breathe, hydrate, and apparently journal your way to enlightenment before breakfast.
But here’s the thing: “should” is often just shame dressed up as self-improvement. It’s a guilt trip with a motivational quote slapped on top. And it’s exhausting. We say we “should” be a certain way because we’ve absorbed a thousand silent rules from culture, family, capitalism, and that one wellness influencer who swears celery juice cured their anxiety. But chasing “should” keeps us stuck in performance mode—disconnected from what actually feels true, useful, or alive.
So yeah, it’s time to stop. Not because you’re broken, but because you’re done playing someone else’s game. You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be real. So, stop “shoulding” on yourself!!